ARE YOU FULLY PRESENT IN THAT RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE ?

Have you ever been talking with someone and felt that they are miles away even though they were sitting next to you?
They might have appeared to be listening but you could sense that they weren’t really mentally and emotionally present in the conversation.
We all have moments when our mind wanders and we lose focus, but if this happens frequently, our relationships with others will be negatively affected. In a marriage for example, intimacy is enhanced by feelings of connection and harmed when partners start feeling disconnected.

When a spouse is physically present but mentally absent, the partner will feel the difference.
Something important is missing. One of the ways you can show respect and care for your spouse is to give the gift of undivided attention.
Like wise you show a high self-esteem when you value connecting deeply with others.
It takes practice and disciple to pull your self back to the present moment when your mind jumps ahead at the deepest, most intimate level. Follow these five tips to be more present when you interact with your spouse.
Each interaction either adds a deposit to the intimacy bank or withdraws from it. * look directly at your partner when he/she is talking to you. This shows respect and will make it easier for you to keep focused.
* When your mind warders, gently re-direct it back to the present moment. Take a deep breath to help you stay anchored and cluttered.
* Ignore stray thoughts that reflect across your mind trying to distract you. Never give them attentions.
* If you are too distracted to concentrate tell your spouse politely. “It’s really important for me to focus on what you are saying I can’t seem to concentrate right now. Could we schedule a time to talk later today?”
* Keep the bigger picture in mind. You are investing time and energy into creating an intimate and excellent relationship with your partner.

PUTTING THE SPARK BACK INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

In most relationships, it isn’t huge issues that are causing the rift but mundane things that can easily be remedied with little effort. Here are a few things you can try to give your relationship a breath of fresh air.
* One simple thing you can do to prevent the passion from slipping away in you relationship is to care about your own appearance and hygiene. I mean you have to care about how you look if you want your partner to care. I guess that makes sense. Doesn’t it?
* Take time to notice little things and compliment your partner on how they look.
* Tell them how much you appreciate it when they do something that is normally taken for granted, like cooking a meal. A kind word can go a log way to reigniting lost passion.
* Sometimes, just the idea of a romantic vacation or date together can help to spark up your relationship. Just take the time out on an afternoon and sit together making a list of places that you want to go together.
This kind of day dreaming together helps solidify the relationship and make each partner feel more secure, leading to greater intimacy.
* Taking bath or showers together on regular basis is something that keeps the passion alive always. Bathing each other is a very sensual activity and allows you to give each other while relaxing at the same time. Try it, I promise you will like it.
Just because your relationship is starting to lose its passion doesn’t mean the relationship is finished. All of the examples above are easy ways that a couple can utilize to reawaken the passion in their relationship as long as you still love each other, it is possible to bring back the passion and you do theses things I am suggesting, you will never lose it.